If you keep waiting for others to show up for you, it's YOU that needs to change.

Beautiful souls,

If you find yourself constantly wondering 'Why do people keep bailing on me?/Why am I always getting flaked on/Why can't I keep committed friendships/relationships?' then the uncomfortable truth is this: There is a huge part of you that is just as non-committal, and emotionally unavailable.

There is a part inside you that's inconsistent with yourself, so when others show inconsistency, it feels normal and acceptable, and somewhat tolerable despite the pain and inner turmoil.

Think of the ways that you may be inconsistent with yourself.

An example could be you postponing something you said you'd set out to do i.e telling yourself that you'd like to get up earlier in the morning, but you hit that snooze button on repeat.

The more you practice being consistent with your own words, the more you're able to see the integrity in others too. And the less you'll tolerate others who simply do not follow through with their words.

It's true when they say that everything is literally a mirror.

All the traits in others that you see, are being reflected back to you.

If you keep focusing only on the external, then it will be extremely DIFFICULT to see the changes that you want in your life.

Sounds simple, right?

So why is it hard to make that change?

Because it requires YOU to look within, and to face the things about yourself that you may be ashamed of.

I noticed a big shift within myself when I finally admitted, wow holy crap I am emotionally unavailable AF TOO!!! Yikes. I am flaky AF too!!! Ugh.

But admitting these things about yourself are meant to be a catalyst for meaningful change, instead of beating yourself up about it.

When you admit these things about yourself with self-love and self-compassion, it is when necessary evolving growth happens 🤍

You deserve consistency, commitment, integrity and alignment folks.

Lots of love,
Chi
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